Chapter 4

Caring for the Caregiver

The chapter so many caregivers skip — the one written for you.

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Lesson 4.1

The Oxygen Mask We Never Put On

Reaching out to a doctor, counselor or a trusted person is part of the work, not a failure of it.

Challenging the belief that devotion equals self-erasure. A depleted caregiver is not more devoted — she is more depleted.

Self-care is part of the job. You protect your ritual as fiercely as any other part of your schedule.

Lesson 4.2

Reaching out to a doctor, counselor or a trusted person is part of the work, not a failure of it.

Believing you are worth the stopping. Rest feels foreign when busyness has been virtue.

You can sit by a window and watch the light change. Rest is how you come back.

Lesson 4.3

Reaching out to a doctor, counselor or a trusted person is part of the work, not a failure of it.

Resisting the slow erosion of yourself across years, even decades, with intention and not only when you remember.

You remain the person who laughed before this began. You are present and whole for them — and for you.

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